Kad\u0131nlar g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta yapt\u0131klar\u0131 bir\u00e7ok i\u015fin kendi g\u00f6revleri oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. Hatta sadece onlar de\u011fil ayn\u0131 evde ya\u015fayan kar\u015f\u0131 cinsten bireyler de b\u00f6yle d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. \u0130nsan\u0131 bir girdap gibi i\u00e7ine \u00e7eken; \u00e7ama\u015f\u0131r, bula\u015f\u0131k, hele o ne yemek yapsam derdinden ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 kald\u0131r\u0131p biraz d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcnce; bu ya\u015fam tarz\u0131n\u0131 kimden \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fini, kime benzedi\u011fini ve neden hayat\u0131n\u0131n s\u00fcrekli tekrar etti\u011fini sorgulamas\u0131 ona yeni bir d\u00fcnyan\u0131n kap\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7ar. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc sorgulad\u0131k\u00e7a hayat\u0131n ba\u015fka t\u00fcrl\u00fc de ya\u015fanabilir oldu\u011funu fark eder.<\/p>\n
Ard\u0131ndan biraz sessizli\u011fe g\u00f6m\u00fcl\u00fcp kendi i\u00e7 muhasebesini yap\u0131nca, etrafta kendine benzeyen birileri var m\u0131 diye merakla ara\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r. \u0130lk bakaca\u011f\u0131 adres yeti\u015fti\u011fi evdir. Annesi ve babas\u0131n\u0131 bir ba\u015fka g\u00f6zle izler, ard\u0131ndan \u00e7evresindeki di\u011fer kad\u0131nlar\u0131… Yuvay\u0131 yapan di\u015fi ku\u015flar ve evin reisi erkekleri g\u00f6zleyince, \u00e7evresinde d\u00f6nen hayat\u0131n izlerini kendi evinin i\u00e7inde bulur. Bazen ayn\u0131l\u0131klar o kadar fazlad\u0131r ki kendini ayn\u0131 yolda y\u00fcr\u00fcyen kad\u0131n kabilesinin \u00f6nemsiz bir bireyi gibi hisseder. \u201cOysa belki de yeni \u015feyler s\u00f6ylemek laz\u0131m, kabilenin y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fc vahaya \u00e7eviren insan olmak laz\u0131m!\u201d diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcp bunu dile getirdi\u011fi zaman, s\u00f6zlerine k\u0131ymet verilenler dinlenir, az\u0131 anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131r, kimi ise umursanmaz. Kiminin s\u00f6zleri havaya kar\u0131\u015f\u0131r bir s\u00fcre sonra ama m\u00fccadele etmeyi bilenler direnir ve sonunda kendi hayat\u0131 dahil etraf\u0131n\u0131 da ayd\u0131nlatacak kazan\u0131mlar elde eder.<\/p>\n
Her birimiz ayr\u0131 co\u011frafyalarda do\u011fmu\u015f ve b\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fc\u015f olsak da, Anadolu\u2019da kad\u0131nlara bi\u00e7ilen g\u00f6revler -onlara bi\u00e7ilen elbiseler farkl\u0131 olsa da- birbirine \u00e7ok yak\u0131nd\u0131r. \u201cElinin hamuru\u201d tabiri kad\u0131n\u0131n hapsedildi\u011fi d\u00f6rt duvar\u0131 i\u015faret eder mesela ve T\u00fcrkiye\u2019de ya\u015fayan her kad\u0131n bu s\u00f6z\u00fcn anlam\u0131n\u0131 gayet iyi bilir! Sonra \u201cEksik etek\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc gelir ve ard\u0131na \u201cKad\u0131n akl\u0131\u201d diye -san\u0131rs\u0131n \u00fclkeyi uzaya \u00e7\u0131karm\u0131\u015f erkekler taraf\u0131ndan kad\u0131n\u0131n analitik d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme yetisinden yoksunlu\u011funu iddia eden- ba\u015fka bir s\u00f6z\u00fc takar! \u0130\u015fin k\u00f6t\u00fcs\u00fc \u00e7o\u011fu kad\u0131n bu eksiklik, g\u00fc\u00e7s\u00fczl\u00fck ve yetersizlik safsatas\u0131na inan\u0131r. Bu y\u00fczden bir i\u015fe giri\u015fmeden \u00f6nce \u00f6\u011frenilmi\u015f yetersizlik ile o i\u015fte ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. Yine bu y\u00fczden baz\u0131 meslekler erkekler i\u00e7in baz\u0131lar\u0131 ise kad\u0131nlar i\u00e7indir. \u00d6\u011frenilmi\u015f yetersizlik kural\u0131na g\u00f6re; erkek ev i\u015finden ne kadar anlamaz ise, kad\u0131n da tamir i\u015flerine elini s\u00fcrmez \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc beceremez!<\/strong> \u00d6\u011frenilmi\u015f yetersizlik, erkekleri ev i\u015flerinden azad ederken kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma hayat\u0131ndaki hareketlerini s\u0131n\u0131rlar, g\u00fc\u00e7 gerektiren i\u015flere giri\u015fmelerinin \u00f6n\u00fcnde koca bir kaya gibi durur.<\/p>\n B\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm yerde kad\u0131nlar s\u0131rt\u0131nda kendi a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 a\u015fan y\u00fckler ta\u015f\u0131rd\u0131. Erkekler ise y\u00fck ta\u015f\u0131yan kad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcnde dimdik y\u00fcr\u00fcy\u00fcp onlara yol g\u00f6sterirdi. Bizim oralarda her zaman kad\u0131ndan daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc oldu\u011fu vurgulanan erke\u011fin s\u0131rt\u0131na y\u00fck almas\u0131 ho\u015f kar\u015f\u0131lanmazd\u0131. Bu \u00e7eli\u015fkiye bak\u0131p, iki b\u00fckl\u00fcm e\u015finin \u00f6n\u00fcnde dimdik y\u00fcr\u00fcyen adam\u0131n ad\u0131na utan\u0131rd\u0131m. Ben olsam yerin dibine girerdim, oysa onlar bundan gocunmazd\u0131. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00f6yle g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015flerdi ve bazen ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 hayattan memnun olan insanlar\u0131n \u00e7oklu\u011fu s\u0131rt\u0131nda y\u00fck ta\u015f\u0131yanlar\u0131n sesine perde olur! Yine do\u011fdu\u011fum yerde, yemek, bula\u015f\u0131k, \u00e7ama\u015f\u0131r gibi ev i\u015flerini halleden kad\u0131n, araya \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n bak\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 da s\u0131k\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131p ard\u0131ndan bah\u00e7eye ko\u015fard\u0131. G\u00fcn\u00fcn sonunda herkes uykudayken a\u011fr\u0131yan s\u0131rt\u0131n\u0131 kendi ovar, nas\u0131rl\u0131 ellerini yine kendi sarard\u0131 kad\u0131n. Kad\u0131n\u0131n tek \u00e7aresi yine kendisiydi!<\/p>\n Sadece benim b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm yerde de\u011fil, toplumun genelinde ortak ya\u015fam alan\u0131ndaki t\u00fcm i\u015fler kad\u0131nlar\u0131n s\u0131rt\u0131nda onlar\u0131n daha h\u0131zl\u0131 y\u00fcr\u00fcmesini engelleyen birer kambur gibi durur. Bu kamburu kad\u0131nlar \u00e7o\u011fu zaman fark etmeden ta\u015f\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc g\u00f6rd\u00fckleri, tan\u0131d\u0131klar\u0131 kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00e7o\u011fu s\u0131rt\u0131nda ayn\u0131 e\u011frili\u011fe sahiptir, hatta bunu kad\u0131n\u0131n fiziksel bir \u00f6zelli\u011fi zannedip kamburu olmayan kad\u0131nlar\u0131n eksik oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnenler bile vard\u0131r. Kamburunun fark\u0131na varan kad\u0131nlar bu gidi\u015fe bir dur demek isteyince, s\u00f6yledikleri kar\u015f\u0131 cins taraf\u0131ndan \u00e7o\u011fu zaman anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131r de\u011fildir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc o da benzer aile yap\u0131s\u0131 i\u00e7inde evde hizmet edilmesi gereken \u015fansl\u0131 az\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n bir \u00fcyesi olarak b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fclm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr. Hi\u00e7 yata\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fczeltmemi\u015ftir mesela ya da \u00e7ama\u015f\u0131r\u0131n\u0131 y\u0131kamam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Annesi, ablas\u0131, k\u0131z karde\u015fi art\u0131k evde kad\u0131n nam\u0131na kim varsa g\u00fcndelik i\u015fleri onlar yapm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r ve bu kimseye garip gelmemi\u015ftir. Rahat\u0131n\u0131n ka\u00e7mas\u0131n\u0131 istemeyen, bu hayat d\u00fczenine al\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f insanlara ise ayn\u0131 evde ya\u015faman\u0131n ortak sorumluluklar getirdi\u011fini anlatmak hi\u00e7 de kolay de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n Bazen bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceyi insan\u0131n kafas\u0131ndan s\u00f6k\u00fcp atmak ve yerine yenisini koymak b\u00fcy\u00fck bir m\u00fccadele gerektirir! Erkek egemen toplumlarda kad\u0131nlar\u0131n tek \u00e7aresi m\u00fccadele etmektir. Kurumaya y\u00fcz tutmu\u015f fidandan umut kesmeden her g\u00fcn k\u00f6klerine su verir gibi daha \u00f6nce d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclmeyenleri d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcrmek, fark edilmeyene dikkat \u00e7ekmek i\u00e7in u\u011fra\u015fmak gerekir. Ve bu m\u00fccadele ile; \u00f6\u011frenilmi\u015f \u00e7aresizli\u011fin ta\u015f duvarlar\u0131n\u0131 y\u0131k\u0131p ge\u00e7mek, pembe duvarlar ile \u00f6r\u00fclm\u00fc\u015f, dantel a\u011flarla \u00e7evrilmi\u015f kal\u0131plar\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131na \u00e7\u0131kmak m\u00fcmk\u00fcn! Ortak ya\u015fam alan\u0131nda ortak karar almak hakk\u0131na sahip olmak, birinin arkas\u0131nda de\u011fil yan\u0131nda y\u00fcr\u00fcmek, yuvay\u0131 tek ba\u015f\u0131na yapan di\u015fi ku\u015f olmaktan vazge\u00e7ip yuvada imece usul\u00fc \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak m\u00fcmk\u00fcn. Kabullenilmi\u015f \u00e7aresizlik ile ya\u015fayan insanlar aras\u0131nda varolu\u015f t\u00fcrk\u00fclerini hayk\u0131rarak s\u00f6ylemek m\u00fcmk\u00fcn!<\/p>\n Sosyal hayat\u0131n i\u00e7inde yer alan, \u00fcreten, okuyan, k\u00fclt\u00fcrel ve bilimsel anlamda \u00e7evresini s\u00fcrekli besleyen, d\u00fcnyadan yeni bir s\u00f6z s\u00f6ylemeden g\u00f6\u00e7meyen, \u00f6zg\u00fcvenli, \u00e7evresinde muhtemel kar\u015f\u0131la\u015faca\u011f\u0131 dar kafalara kar\u015f\u0131 gard\u0131n\u0131 asla d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrmeyen, m\u00fccadeleci kad\u0131nlar\u0131n topraklar\u0131m\u0131zda \u00e7o\u011falmas\u0131 da m\u00fcmk\u00fcn. Bunun i\u00e7in; kad\u0131nlar kozalar\u0131n\u0131 delip u\u00e7mal\u0131 g\u00f6ky\u00fcz\u00fcne, kendilerine \u00f6r\u00fclen o pembe d\u00fcnyadan maviliklere y\u00fckselmeli ve hayata umut tohumlar\u0131 ekmeli! Kad\u0131nlar topra\u011f\u0131 iyi i\u015fler \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc topra\u011f\u0131n halinden anlar. Tohum atmaya s\u0131ra geldi\u011finde arka planda b\u0131rak\u0131lsa da o da toprak gibidir; tohumun i\u00e7inde nas\u0131l ye\u015ferdi\u011fini bilir! \u0130yi i\u015flenmi\u015f bir toprak ne kadar iyi \u00fcr\u00fcn verirse f\u0131rsat verilmi\u015f bir kad\u0131n da etraf\u0131n\u0131 o kadar iyi ayd\u0131nlat\u0131r. Topra\u011fa su vermeyi, kad\u0131nlar\u0131n m\u00fccadelesine destek olmay\u0131 ihmal etmeyin!<\/p>\n \u2666<\/p>\n Kad\u0131nlar g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta yapt\u0131klar\u0131 bir\u00e7ok i\u015fin kendi g\u00f6revleri oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. Hatta sadece onlar de\u011fil ayn\u0131 evde ya\u015fayan kar\u015f\u0131 cinsten bireyler de b\u00f6yle d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. \u0130nsan\u0131 bir girdap gibi i\u00e7ine \u00e7eken; \u00e7ama\u015f\u0131r, bula\u015f\u0131k, hele o ne yemek yapsam derdinden ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 kald\u0131r\u0131p biraz d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcnce; bu ya\u015fam tarz\u0131n\u0131 kimden \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fini, kime benzedi\u011fini ve neden hayat\u0131n\u0131n s\u00fcrekli tekrar etti\u011fini sorgulamas\u0131 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":119,"featured_media":8948,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[11],"tags":[336],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8946"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/119"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8946"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8946\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/8948"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8946"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8946"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8946"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}