Bir kad\u0131n\u0131n, ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 hayat boyunca, i\u00e7inde binlerce kad\u0131n \u00f6l\u00fcr ve yerine yenisi do\u011far. \u0130lk kez aldat\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda biraz masumiyetinden kaybeder. Annesiyle her kavga etti\u011finde kendi varl\u0131\u011f\u0131 sonraki yakalay\u0131\u015fa kadar yava\u015f\u00e7a ayaklar\u0131n\u0131n alt\u0131ndan kayar. En yak\u0131n k\u0131z arkada\u015f\u0131ndan kaz\u0131k yedi\u011finde dost kalabilme \u00f6zelli\u011fini sorgular. Ve gece g\u00fcnd\u00fcz emek verdi\u011fi i\u015finden kovuldu\u011funda d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn \u00f6neminden \u015f\u00fcphe eder.<\/p>\n
Her bir deneyiminde i\u00e7inde baz\u0131 kad\u0131nlar\u0131 \u00f6ld\u00fcrmesi gerekir ki yoluna devam edebilsin. Ancak as\u0131l uyanmas\u0131 gereken kad\u0131n\u0131, \u00e7ocu\u011funu d\u00fcnyaya getirirken do\u011furur. Oldu\u011fu ki\u015fi olabilmenin verdi\u011fi huzuru as\u0131l \u015fimdi tatmaya ba\u015flar. Ancak bu tan\u0131\u015fma kitap ve filmlerde anlat\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 kadar kolay olmaz. En vah\u015fi, en k\u0131r\u0131lgan ve en \u00f6zg\u00fcr yan\u0131yla tan\u0131\u015fman\u0131n bedelini herkes kendi parmak izine g\u00f6re ya\u015far. \u0130\u015fte bu bahsedilmeyen, herkesin kendi kadraj\u0131na g\u00f6re hem kendini hem \u00e7ocu\u011funu b\u00fcy\u00fctt\u00fc\u011f\u00fc d\u00f6nemde bir kad\u0131n g\u00fcven hissinin di\u011fer b\u00fct\u00fcn erdemlerden daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc oldu\u011funu hat\u0131rlar. B\u00fct\u00fcn maddecili\u011fi bir kenara b\u0131rak\u0131r<\/strong>, bir \u00e7ift g\u00f6z\u00fcn mutlulu\u011funa \u015fahitlik ederek maneviyat\u0131n kendi i\u00e7indeki anlam\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zer.<\/p>\n Zorluklar \u00e7i\u00e7ekleriyle beraber gelir bir nevi. T\u00fcm bu hesapla\u015fmalar, unutulmaz anlar, ruhunu en derinden hissetti\u011fi anlar ya\u015fan\u0131rken, i\u00e7inde \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131k \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131\u011fa ba\u011f\u0131ran bir k\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011funu da fark eder. K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck k\u0131z, kendini ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirmek i\u00e7in art\u0131k f\u0131rsat kollamaktad\u0131r ve sadece d\u0131\u015far\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131lmay\u0131 bekler. Olgunlu\u011fu tam anlam\u0131yla tatmaya ba\u015flayan kad\u0131n, kim olmak istedi\u011fini, ne i\u00e7in heyecan duydu\u011funu ke\u015ffetmi\u015f, mental blokajlar\u0131ndan s\u0131yr\u0131lmaya ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Cesaret ve g\u00fcven, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck k\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011funun belirmesiyle geri gelmi\u015ftir.<\/p>\n Kad\u0131n i\u00e7eride dalgalanan bu gelgitlerle, bar\u0131\u015fmalarla bo\u011fu\u015fuyorken, \u00e7evresinde, ortaya \u00e7\u0131kan bu g\u00fc\u00e7ten rahats\u0131z olan bak\u0131\u015flara denk gelir. Kad\u0131n\u0131n oda\u011f\u0131nda ve akl\u0131nda \u00f6yle b\u00fcy\u00fck bir iyilik bulunur ki; uzunca bir s\u00fcre bu bak\u0131\u015flara anlam veremez. Ne zaman ki hisler, s\u00f6zle ya da hareketle kendini g\u00f6sterir; i\u00e7indeki \u00e7o\u011fu kad\u0131n\u0131 bile isteye kendi \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcr, yerine yenisini koymadan. Daha ac\u0131mas\u0131z, daha ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i, daha rasyonel yakla\u015f\u0131r art\u0131k. \u0130\u00e7g\u00fcd\u00fcleri de\u011fildir onu y\u00f6nlendiren, sadece mant\u0131\u011f\u0131yla hareket eder, do\u011fru olana itilir kendili\u011finden. Daha d\u00fcnyadan biri haline gelir; iyilikten, merhametten hafif hafif koparak.<\/p>\n Uyan\u0131\u015f\u0131n s\u00fcresi her ki\u015fiye g\u00f6re de\u011fi\u015fir, \u00e7evresi ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 e\u011f diyorsa normali budur der ve g\u00fcl\u00fcmsemeye devam eder, bir s\u00fcreli\u011fine! Ancak baz\u0131 \u015feylerin yanl\u0131\u015f gitti\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorsa e\u011fer, hem kendi hem etraf\u0131ndakiler i\u00e7in yepyeni bir d\u00f6nem ba\u015flar. T\u00fcm ya\u015fananlar\u0131 geri b\u0131rakmaya haz\u0131rd\u0131r, \u015fa\u015fk\u0131nl\u0131k i\u00e7inde i\u00e7inde \u015fimdiye kadar sahip olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fck bir g\u00fc\u00e7le. E\u011fer yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131na haz\u0131rsa, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n de\u011fil kendi mevcudiyetinin onu y\u00fcceltti\u011fine inanacak kudreti bulduysa i\u00e7inde ne bir s\u00f6z ne bir el ne de bir tehdit onu durdurur. Kendi gelmek istedi\u011fi i\u00e7in gelmi\u015ftir; kendi gitmek istedi\u011fi i\u00e7in gidecektir.<\/strong> Tek fark eden, t\u0131rmand\u0131\u011f\u0131 bu yolda sahip oldu\u011fu kad\u0131nlar\u0131 ne kadar bar\u0131\u015f i\u00e7inde ya\u015fatt\u0131\u011f\u0131d\u0131r. D\u0131\u015fsal de\u011fil i\u00e7sel fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131yla, uyanmak istedi\u011fi vakit kendi r\u0131zas\u0131yla uyanacakt\u0131r. T\u00fcm ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131, g\u00fczellikleri ve \u00e7irkinlikleriyle e\u015f de\u011ferdir; hislerinin pek bir \u00f6nemi yoktur. Yeniden do\u011fabilmek i\u00e7in b\u00fct\u00fcn kimli\u011fini ele ge\u00e7irmi\u015f, uzunca bir s\u00fcredir tek ba\u015f\u0131na konu\u015fan kad\u0131n\u0131 bir anda yok saymaya haz\u0131rd\u0131r. Pek de zor olmayan bu s\u00fcreci tan\u0131yordur, kad\u0131n bilgeli\u011fi buna al\u0131\u015fk\u0131nd\u0131r; bir yabanc\u0131yla kendini ke\u015ffetmeye, bir s\u00f6zle tekrar yabanc\u0131la\u015fmaya.<\/p>\n S\u00f6yledi\u011fin s\u00f6z\u00fcn, yeltendi\u011fin \u015fiddetin ederi benim \u00f6l\u00fcm ve do\u011fuma ne kadar haz\u0131r oldu\u011fumla ili\u015fkilidir. \u015eimdi kald\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n o eli yava\u015f\u00e7a a\u015fa\u011f\u0131ya indir. Benim i\u00e7in \u00e7ok k\u0131sa ama senin i\u00e7in uzun ve bilinmedik bir yolculuk olacak.<\/p>\n \u2666<\/p>\n Photo by\u00a0Anete Lusina<\/a><\/strong>\u00a0from\u00a0Pexels<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Bir kad\u0131n\u0131n, ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 hayat boyunca, i\u00e7inde binlerce kad\u0131n \u00f6l\u00fcr ve yerine yenisi do\u011far. \u0130lk kez aldat\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda biraz masumiyetinden kaybeder. Annesiyle her kavga etti\u011finde kendi varl\u0131\u011f\u0131 sonraki yakalay\u0131\u015fa kadar yava\u015f\u00e7a ayaklar\u0131n\u0131n alt\u0131ndan kayar. En yak\u0131n k\u0131z arkada\u015f\u0131ndan kaz\u0131k yedi\u011finde dost kalabilme \u00f6zelli\u011fini sorgular. Ve gece g\u00fcnd\u00fcz emek verdi\u011fi i\u015finden kovuldu\u011funda d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn \u00f6neminden \u015f\u00fcphe eder. 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