{"id":8796,"date":"2020-11-26T12:39:26","date_gmt":"2020-11-26T09:39:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.dijitaltopuklar.com\/?p=8796"},"modified":"2020-11-26T12:39:26","modified_gmt":"2020-11-26T09:39:26","slug":"s%cc%a7iddetin-adi-vahset-peki-kadinin-adi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/2020\/11\/s%cc%a7iddetin-adi-vahset-peki-kadinin-adi\/","title":{"rendered":"S\u0327iddetin ad\u0131 vah\u015fet; peki kad\u0131n\u0131n ad\u0131?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Bir kad\u0131n, \u00e7\u00f6p konteynerinde par\u00e7alanm\u0131\u015f halde bulundu. \u201cAilesi k\u0131z\u0131na sahip \u00e7\u0131ksaym\u0131\u015f\u201d dediler.<\/span><\/p>\n

Bir kad\u0131n; bindi\u011fi minib\u00fcste tecav\u00fcze direndi, \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcld\u00fc ve yak\u0131ld\u0131. \u201cTek ba\u015f\u0131na ne i\u015fi var dolmu\u015fta\u201d dediler.<\/span><\/p>\n

Bir kad\u0131n; plazada tecav\u00fcze u\u011frad\u0131 ve \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcld\u00fc. \u201cK\u0131z ba\u015f\u0131na gece vakti ne yap\u0131yormu\u015f orada\u201d dediler.<\/span><\/p>\n

Bir kad\u0131n; \u00e7ocu\u011funun g\u00f6z\u00fc \u00f6n\u00fcnde \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcld\u00fc \u00fcstelik k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131n babas\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan. \u201c\u00d6lmek istemiyorum\u201d diye hayk\u0131rd\u0131. K\u0131z\u0131 ise \u201canne ne olur \u00f6lme\u201d diye yalvard\u0131. Susmad\u0131lar! \u201cBo\u015fanmasaym\u0131\u015f\u201d dediler.<\/span><\/p>\n

Bir kad\u0131n, bo\u011fuldu, yak\u0131ld\u0131 ve \u00fczerine beton d\u00f6k\u00fcld\u00fc. \u201cEvli adamla ne i\u015fi vard\u0131, rahat dursun\u201d dediler.<\/span><\/p>\n

Bu \u00fclkede hep bir kad\u0131n \u00f6ld\u00fc, \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcld\u00fc, katledildi. Kad\u0131n\u0131n ad\u0131n\u0131 o zaman and\u0131lar, \u00f6yle mezar ta\u015f\u0131nda kad\u0131n\u0131n ad\u0131 olsun diyerek falan da de\u011fil \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc hak etti\u011fine inan\u0131p yaftalayarak. <\/span><\/p>\n

Medyada yer bulan bu vah\u015fetlerin binlercesi daha var; bazen hi\u00e7 bilmedi\u011fimiz bazen \u015fahit oldu\u011fumuz bazen ise ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z. Kad\u0131na \u015fiddet \u00f6yle bir hal ald\u0131 ki; sokakta endi\u015feyle y\u00fcr\u00fcrken ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131za bir \u015fey gelmemesi, \u00e7ok be\u011fenerek ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z ete\u011fi giyip toplu ta\u015f\u0131mada rahats\u0131z edilmememiz, ba\u015f\u00f6rt\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fcn sanat i\u00e7in bir engel olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclmesi b\u00fcy\u00fck bir \u015fans oldu. Yani s\u0131radan bir ya\u015fam\u0131n par\u00e7as\u0131na ait durumlarda bile art\u0131k endi\u015felerimiz, kayg\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131z ve korkular\u0131m\u0131z yer ediniyor. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu co\u011frafyada her kad\u0131n, az ya da \u00e7ok \u015fiddetin farkl\u0131 \u015fekillerine maruz kal\u0131yor. <\/span><\/p>\n

Kad\u0131n\u0131n ya\u015fam\u0131na b\u00fct\u00fcn bu engeller neden konuluyor? Neden cinsiyetleri ayr\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmadan e\u015fit bir ya\u015fam m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olmuyor? Peki neden biz her g\u00fcn kad\u0131na \u015fiddete \u015fahit olmaya al\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131l\u0131yoruz ve bu korkun\u00e7 \u00f6fkeleri kad\u0131n\u0131n ya\u015fam\u0131na mal ediyoruz? Halbuki hepimiz ayn\u0131 d\u00fcnyaya do\u011fuyoruz. Kad\u0131n\u0131 erkekten ay\u0131ran, erke\u011fi kutsalla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131rken kad\u0131n\u0131 yok sayan, g\u00fcc\u00fc erke\u011fe acizli\u011fi ise kad\u0131na tan\u0131mlayan bu alg\u0131 d\u00fcnyada yer edinmi\u015f. Ve bu do\u011frultuda yeti\u015fen her birey, bir g\u00fcn, s\u00f6zl\u00fc ya da fiziksel fark etmeksizin kad\u0131na \u015fiddet uyguluyor. Ard\u0131ndan ayn\u0131 zihniyetten beslenenler kad\u0131n bunu hak etmi\u015f\u00e7esine davranmaya devam ediyorlar. Bir erke\u011fin sokak ortas\u0131nda s\u0131kl\u0131kla kesilmeyen yollar\u0131, kafas\u0131na esti\u011fi gibi bitirebildi\u011fi ili\u015fkileri, \u00f6fke n\u00f6betlerinde kad\u0131n\u0131 muhatap al\u0131p sakin zamanlar\u0131nda sayg\u0131s\u0131z tav\u0131rlar sergilemesi gibi bir\u00e7ok durum kad\u0131n\u0131n g\u00fc\u00e7s\u00fczl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnden(?) dolay\u0131 var olmuyor asl\u0131nda. Zaten g\u00fc\u00e7 tan\u0131mlamas\u0131 da, \u00e7arpt\u0131r\u0131larak, erke\u011fin fiziksel fonksiyonuna ithaf ediliyor. <\/span><\/p>\n

As\u0131l g\u00fc\u00e7 ne biliyor musunuz? <\/span><\/p>\n

Yarg\u0131larla dolu bu g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcy\u00fc dindirecek sesi \u00e7\u0131kartabilmek, katledilirken \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131klar\u0131 bast\u0131r\u0131lan, \u015fiddet g\u00f6ren ve \u015fiddete sessiz kalan kad\u0131nlara ses olabilmek. G\u00fcc\u00fcn sadece \u015fiddet oldu\u011funa inananlara ra\u011fmen eme\u011fin, sabr\u0131n, iyi niyetin, empatinin, zihinsel yakla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131n, bilimin, insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n ve hafife ald\u0131klar\u0131 kad\u0131n\u0131n g\u00fcc\u00fcne inanmak.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ve bu toplumda \u201cg\u00fc\u00e7\u201d k\u0131l\u0131nan bir \u015fey varsa o da kad\u0131n\u0131n e\u015fit ya\u015fam hakk\u0131.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00d6n\u00fcne \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131lan g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcklere ra\u011fmen ya\u015fama \u00e7abas\u0131, ayaklar\u0131 \u00fcst\u00fcnde durmaya olan azmi, haks\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa kar\u015f\u0131 direncidir kad\u0131n\u0131n g\u00fcc\u00fc; b\u0131\u00e7a\u011fa, silaha, yumru\u011fa s\u0131\u011f\u0131nmaks\u0131z\u0131n. \u00dcstelik \u00f6yle bir \u015feydir ki \u00fcst\u00fcne kusulan b\u00fct\u00fcn bu \u00f6fke ve nefreti yans\u0131tmak yerine sayg\u0131, sevgi, emek gibi bir\u00e7ok unsuru davran\u0131\u015f edinmeye devam eder. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ne yaz\u0131k ki sadece bizim ses olup cesaret a\u015f\u0131lamam\u0131zla de\u011fi\u015fmedi, de\u011fi\u015fmiyor ve de\u011fi\u015fmeyecek bu d\u00fczen(sizlik). Konu\u015fmalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n, tan\u0131mlamalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n, s\u0131\u011f\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n, yeti\u015ftirdi\u011fimiz nesillerin de art\u0131k de\u011fi\u015fmesi gerek. <\/span><\/p>\n

Kad\u0131n bu d\u00fcnyada tesad\u00fcfen ya\u015famak i\u00e7in var olmad\u0131 bunun art\u0131k anla\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131 gerek!<\/span><\/p>\n

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Bir kad\u0131n, \u00e7\u00f6p konteynerinde par\u00e7alanm\u0131\u015f halde bulundu. \u201cAilesi k\u0131z\u0131na sahip \u00e7\u0131ksaym\u0131\u015f\u201d dediler. Bir kad\u0131n; bindi\u011fi minib\u00fcste tecav\u00fcze direndi, \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcld\u00fc ve yak\u0131ld\u0131. \u201cTek ba\u015f\u0131na ne i\u015fi var dolmu\u015fta\u201d dediler. Bir kad\u0131n; plazada tecav\u00fcze u\u011frad\u0131 ve \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcld\u00fc. \u201cK\u0131z ba\u015f\u0131na gece vakti ne yap\u0131yormu\u015f orada\u201d dediler. Bir kad\u0131n; \u00e7ocu\u011funun g\u00f6z\u00fc \u00f6n\u00fcnde \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcld\u00fc \u00fcstelik k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131n babas\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan. \u201c\u00d6lmek istemiyorum\u201d […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":19,"featured_media":8798,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[11,15,41],"tags":[308,465,749,755],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8796"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/19"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8796"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8796\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/8798"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8796"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8796"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8796"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}