{"id":8794,"date":"2020-11-26T12:13:44","date_gmt":"2020-11-26T09:13:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.dijitaltopuklar.com\/?p=8794"},"modified":"2020-11-26T12:13:44","modified_gmt":"2020-11-26T09:13:44","slug":"digerkamlik","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/2020\/11\/digerkamlik\/","title":{"rendered":"Di\u011ferk\u00e2ml\u0131k"},"content":{"rendered":"

Bu kelimeyi sevgili Ay\u015fe Bilge Sel\u00e7uk\u2019un \u2018\u2019\u0130nsan her ko\u015fulda\u2019\u2019 kitab\u0131nda ilk kez g\u00f6rd\u00fcm ve kalbime sar\u0131p sarmalad\u0131m. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ben bug\u00fcne kadar kendimi hep empati kuran ve kimi zaman empati yorgunu hisseden biri olarak di\u011ferkaml\u0131\u011f\u0131n anlam\u0131na bay\u0131ld\u0131m.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2019\u2019Di\u011ferkaml\u0131k: ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n yarar\u0131n\u0131 da kendi yarar\u0131 kadar g\u00f6zetme ya da di\u011fer insanlara maddi veya manevi ki\u015fisel \u00e7\u0131kar g\u00f6zetmeksizin yararl\u0131 olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma ve bencillik kar\u015f\u0131t\u0131 hareketlerde bulunma\u2019\u2019. Sanki bu kelime beni ve benim gibileri anlat\u0131yor, hayat\u0131 daha ya\u015fan\u0131l\u0131r k\u0131lmak i\u00e7in benmerkezcili\u011fe kar\u015f\u0131 pozitif ve bir o kadar g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc duru\u015f.<\/span><\/p>\n

Herkesin g\u00f6r\u00fcnmez iplerle birbirine ba\u011fl\u0131 oldu\u011fu, herkesin y\u0131ld\u0131z tozunda yarat\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131, her canl\u0131n\u0131n (insan, hayvan, bitki, d\u00fcnya..) bir ya\u015fam amac\u0131 oldu\u011fu, bir b\u00fct\u00fcn\u00fcn mink minik par\u00e7alar\u0131 oldu\u011fumuz gibi onlarca c\u00fcmle benim hayat felsefemi olu\u015fturuyor. Yani kendim kadar herkesin yarar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6zetmek temel prensibim. Bazen kendi yarar\u0131m\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmedi\u011fim bile olup, negatife sar\u0131p, empati yorgunu olup da \u00e7\u0131kabiliyorum. Ama kendim gibi di\u011ferk\u00e2m insanlar g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcmde ise i\u00e7im ye\u015fillenip, yaln\u0131z de\u011filsin diyorum kendime.<\/span><\/p>\n

G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde yanl\u0131\u015f ve do\u011fru kavramlar\u0131 birbirine girmi\u015f durumda, h\u00e2lbuki kalben hissedilen evrensel do\u011frular ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yast\u0131\u011fa koydu\u011fumuzda bizi rahat uyutan kararlar, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceler. Ama bizdeki her yanl\u0131\u015f \u00e7o\u011fu zaman ba\u015fkas\u0131ndan \u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fc ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmi\u015f nefsi m\u00fcdafaa bahaneleri oluyor genelde, bu bir i\u00e7 rahatlatmaca, kendinle y\u00fczle\u015fmeyi ve sadece \u2018\u2019yanl\u0131\u015f\u2019\u2019 yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kabul edememe durumu bence.<\/span><\/p>\n

Stat\u00fc d\u00fc\u015fk\u00fcn\u00fc, pop\u00fcler olma merakl\u0131s\u0131, hep en bilen olmak isteyen ve g\u00fcc\u00fc elinde tutma tutkusuna sahip bence i\u00e7i bo\u015f, m\u00fcdavimi \u00e7ok olan insanlar toplulu\u011fuyuz art\u0131k. Di\u011ferk\u00e2ml\u0131k ise az\u0131nl\u0131k meziyeti, ama bize insan oldu\u011fumuzu en k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck h\u00fccrelerimize kadar hissettiriyor, mesela; hi\u00e7 tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131 birinin ta\u015f\u0131makta zorland\u0131\u011f\u0131 po\u015fetleri ta\u015f\u0131maya yard\u0131m eden \/ yolun ortas\u0131nda yava\u015f\u00e7a y\u00fcr\u00fcyen kaplumba\u011fay\u0131 fark ederek, durup, eliyle kar\u015f\u0131ya ge\u00e7irip, hayat\u0131n\u0131 kurtaran \/ dolmu\u015fa binen ya\u015fl\u0131 amcan\u0131n, c\u00fczdan\u0131nda yetirince paras\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlay\u0131nca, onun yerine dolmu\u015f paras\u0131n\u0131 uzatan \/ yolculukta a\u011flayan bir \u00e7ocu\u011fa \u2018\u2019susturun art\u0131k, kafam\u0131z \u015fi\u015fti!\u2019\u2019 bak\u0131\u015flar\u0131 aras\u0131nda \u00e7antas\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131kard\u0131\u011f\u0131 k\u00e2\u011f\u0131t ile ka\u011f\u0131ttan u\u00e7ak yap\u0131p, sakinle\u015fmesini sa\u011flayan \/ yani hayat\u0131 g\u00fczelle\u015ftirme felsefesini sadece kendi i\u00e7in de\u011fil etraf\u0131ndaki t\u00fcm canl\u0131lar i\u00e7in alg\u0131layan g\u00fczel y\u00fcrekli insanlar, g\u00fcc\u00fcm\u00fcz \u00e7ok de\u011ferli ve anlaml\u0131, her \u015feye ve \u00e7o\u011funlu\u011fa ra\u011fmen b\u00f6yle kalmaya direnmek gerek.<\/span><\/p>\n

Bu yaz\u0131y\u0131 okuyup da i\u00e7i titreyen sen sevgili okur, kelimelerin ortakl\u0131\u011f\u0131nda duyguda\u015f olmak da \u00e7ok g\u00fczel\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

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M<\/a>Andrea Piacquadio<\/a>\u00a0adl\u0131 ki\u015finin\u00a0<\/a>Pexels<\/a>‘daki foto\u011fraf\u0131<\/a><\/strong><\/em><\/h6>\n
Dijital Topuklar’da yaz\u0131lan yaz\u0131lar, yazar\u0131n bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 ve fikirlerini yans\u0131tmakta olup, Dijital Topuklar’\u0131n g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015flerini temsil etmeyebilir.<\/em><\/h6>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Bu kelimeyi sevgili Ay\u015fe Bilge Sel\u00e7uk\u2019un \u2018\u2019\u0130nsan her ko\u015fulda\u2019\u2019 kitab\u0131nda ilk kez g\u00f6rd\u00fcm ve kalbime sar\u0131p sarmalad\u0131m. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ben bug\u00fcne kadar kendimi hep empati kuran ve kimi zaman empati yorgunu hisseden biri olarak di\u011ferkaml\u0131\u011f\u0131n anlam\u0131na bay\u0131ld\u0131m. \u2019\u2019Di\u011ferkaml\u0131k: ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n yarar\u0131n\u0131 da kendi yarar\u0131 kadar g\u00f6zetme ya da di\u011fer insanlara maddi veya manevi ki\u015fisel \u00e7\u0131kar g\u00f6zetmeksizin yararl\u0131 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":11,"featured_media":8795,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[11,41],"tags":[222,260,589],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8794"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/11"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8794"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8794\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/8795"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8794"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8794"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8794"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}