{"id":8374,"date":"2020-05-08T13:56:42","date_gmt":"2020-05-08T10:56:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.dijitaltopuklar.com\/?p=8374"},"modified":"2020-05-08T13:56:42","modified_gmt":"2020-05-08T10:56:42","slug":"beni-methetme-kardesim","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/2020\/05\/beni-methetme-kardesim\/","title":{"rendered":"Beni Methetme Karde\u015fim"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Corona vir\u00fcs\u00fc korkusu ile ge\u00e7irdi\u011fimiz \u015fu g\u00fcnlerde sa\u011fl\u0131k \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlar\u0131 salg\u0131n\u0131n tam g\u00f6be\u011finde, zaman zaman kendi hayatlar\u0131n\u0131 riske atarak, ailelerini g\u00fcnlerce g\u00f6remeden, b\u00fcy\u00fck bir \u00f6zveri ile \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorlar. Hekimlere, hem\u015firelere, hastanede \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlara, sekt\u00f6rdeki herkese i\u00e7imiz titreyerek, hi\u00e7 tan\u0131\u015fmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z halde onlar i\u00e7in s\u00fcrekli iyilikler dileyerek bak\u0131yoruz, <strong>u\u00e7ak kalkarken sessizce dudaklar\u0131 oynayarak dua eden ya\u015fl\u0131 teyzeler gibi oluyoruz<\/strong> onlardan bahsederken. \u0130yi olsunlar, ayaklar\u0131na ta\u015f de\u011fmesin.<\/p>\n<p>Bir yandan da onlara deste\u011fimizi g\u00f6stermek i\u00e7in farkl\u0131 farkl\u0131 fikirler buluyoruz, bir tanesi epey dola\u015ft\u0131 internette. Batman, Hulk, Superman gibi me\u015fhur s\u00fcper kahramanlar\u0131n hastane duvar\u0131nda e\u011filip oradakilere sayg\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 sunduklar\u0131 bir ill\u00fcstrasyon, siz de g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015fs\u00fcn\u00fczd\u00fcr muhtemelen. \u00c7ok iyi niyetli ve yap\u0131l\u0131\u015f amac\u0131n\u0131 net anlat\u0131yor ama acaba biz kanl\u0131 canl\u0131, ger\u00e7ek insanlara s\u00fcper kahraman muamelesi yap\u0131nca onlara iyilikten \u00e7ok zarar m\u0131 veriyoruz, ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6zden mi ka\u00e7\u0131r\u0131yoruz? Mesela bir hem\u015firenin sizce ihtiyac\u0131 ona s\u00fcrekli ne kadar insan\u00fcst\u00fc biri oldu\u011funun s\u00f6ylenmesi midir yoksa g\u00fcvenli \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma \u015fartlar\u0131, eme\u011finin kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 olan bir maa\u015f, normal saatli vardiyalar, d\u00fczg\u00fcn bir i\u015f-\u00f6zel ya\u015fam dengesi midir? <strong>Bir ki\u015finin emeklerinin kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ona sadece sevgi sayg\u0131 de\u011fil, somut \u015feyler de vermemeli miyiz?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Benzer bir \u015fey kad\u0131nlara da yap\u0131l\u0131yor \u00e7o\u011fu zaman. \u2018Yuvay\u0131 di\u015fi ku\u015f yapar\u2019 c\u00fcmlesinin arkas\u0131nda mesela, ailesi i\u00e7in, e\u015fi sevgilisi, yuvas\u0131 i\u00e7in fedak\u00e2rl\u0131k yapmas\u0131 beklenen hep kad\u0131n. \u2018Fedak\u00e2rl\u0131k yapsa da takdir etsek\u2019 diye beklemek yerine herkesin ili\u015fkide e\u015fit \u015fartlara sahip olmas\u0131na kafa yorulabilir h\u00e2lbuki. Ayn\u0131 aile i\u00e7erisinde ya\u015fayan herkes kendi hayat\u0131na vakit ay\u0131rabilse, \u00f6zg\u00fcrce istedi\u011fi zaman istedi\u011fi yere gidebilse, evlilik kurumu bir hesap verme ortam\u0131 olarak g\u00f6r\u00fclmese, ortada \u2018fedak\u00e2rl\u0131k\u2019 olarak adland\u0131raca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir \u015fey kalmasa daha g\u00fczel olmaz m\u0131? <em>\u2018Hem i\u015fe gidiyor hem de \u00e7ocu\u011funun her an\u0131yla ilgileniyor\u2019<\/em> diye \u00f6vd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz ya da <em>\u2018Aaaa tek bir veli toplant\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 bile ka\u00e7\u0131rmaz\u2019<\/em> diye bahsetti\u011fimiz bir anne acaba \u00e7ocu\u011fun sorumluluklar\u0131n\u0131n bir k\u0131sm\u0131n\u0131 di\u011fer ebeveynle payla\u015fabilse daha mutlu olmaz m\u0131? <strong>G\u00fcn sonunda elinde olan \u015fey \u2018fedak\u00e2r anne\u2019 tan\u0131m\u0131 de\u011fil de hem \u00e7ocu\u011funu sevdi\u011fi hem yapmak istediklerine vakit ay\u0131rabildi\u011fi bir hayat olsa bu herkes i\u00e7in daha iyi de\u011fil mi?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Vizontele filminde Cem Y\u0131lmaz\u2019\u0131n \u015f\u00f6yle bir repli\u011fi vard\u0131 hani \u2018<em>Beni methetme karde\u015fim bana para ver.<\/em>\u2019 Bu c\u00fcmle anlatmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m her \u015feyi tek seferde anlat\u0131yor asl\u0131nda.<strong> \u0130nsanlar\u0131 kahramanla\u015ft\u0131rmakta de\u011fil \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm,<\/strong> herkese hak etti\u011fi ya\u015fam ko\u015fullar\u0131n\u0131 verebilmekte, kimsenin \u00fczerine ta\u015f\u0131yamayaca\u011f\u0131 y\u00fckleri y\u00fcklememekte.<\/p>\n<p>Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ve g\u00fcvende g\u00fcnler dilerim.<\/p>\n<p>\u2022<\/p>\n<p>Photo by\u00a0<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/@anastasia-shuraeva?utm_content=attributionCopyText&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_source=pexels\">Anastasia Shuraeva<\/a><\/strong>\u00a0from\u00a0<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/woman-in-blue-long-sleeve-dress-clapping-4122915\/?utm_content=attributionCopyText&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_source=pexels\">Pexels<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<h6><\/h6>\n<h6>Dijital Topuklar&#8217;da yaz\u0131lan yaz\u0131lar, yazar\u0131n bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 ve fikirlerini yans\u0131tmakta olup, Dijital Topuklar&#8217;\u0131n g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015flerini temsil etmeyebilir.<\/h6>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Corona vir\u00fcs\u00fc korkusu ile ge\u00e7irdi\u011fimiz \u015fu g\u00fcnlerde sa\u011fl\u0131k \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlar\u0131 salg\u0131n\u0131n tam g\u00f6be\u011finde, zaman zaman kendi hayatlar\u0131n\u0131 riske atarak, ailelerini g\u00fcnlerce g\u00f6remeden, b\u00fcy\u00fck bir \u00f6zveri ile \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorlar. Hekimlere, hem\u015firelere, hastanede \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlara, sekt\u00f6rdeki herkese i\u00e7imiz titreyerek, hi\u00e7 tan\u0131\u015fmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z halde onlar i\u00e7in s\u00fcrekli iyilikler dileyerek bak\u0131yoruz, u\u00e7ak kalkarken sessizce dudaklar\u0131 oynayarak dua eden ya\u015fl\u0131 teyzeler gibi oluyoruz onlardan [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":8383,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[11,41],"tags":[101,278,499,501],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8374"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/6"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8374"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8374\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/8383"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8374"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8374"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8374"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}