{"id":8163,"date":"2020-02-13T17:15:34","date_gmt":"2020-02-13T14:15:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.dijitaltopuklar.com\/?p=8163"},"modified":"2020-02-13T17:15:34","modified_gmt":"2020-02-13T14:15:34","slug":"en-buyuk-guc-sensin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/2020\/02\/en-buyuk-guc-sensin\/","title":{"rendered":"En B\u00fcy\u00fck G\u00fc\u00e7 Sensin!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Bizim toplumumuzda \u201ckad\u0131nlar\u201d her ne kadar ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olsa da, \u015f\u00f6yle bir yarg\u0131 vard\u0131r: \u201cArkas\u0131nda vard\u0131r birileri…\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

San\u0131rlar ki, hi\u00e7bir kad\u0131n kendi kendine bir erke\u011fin ba\u015fard\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 ba\u015faramaz.<\/p>\n

Bug\u00fcn size toplumun iki y\u00fczl\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnden bahsedece\u011fim. Kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m kadar\u0131yla, g\u00f6sterdikleri kadar\u0131yla!<\/p>\n

Lise ve \u00fcniversitede kendi \u00e7abalar\u0131mla Photoshop \u00f6\u011frenmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131m ve \u00f6\u011frendim de! \u00dcniversitede topluluklar\u0131n afi\u015flerini tasarlad\u0131m.<\/p>\n

Okul bitti, Gezi\u2019den tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m arkada\u015f\u0131m\u0131n ajans\u0131nda i\u015f \u00f6\u011frenmeye ba\u015flad\u0131m, 3 ayda html5 (web kodlama) \u00f6\u011frendim.\u00a0Sonra bankac\u0131l\u0131k ser\u00fcvenim ba\u015flad\u0131, (para kazanmam gerekiyordu \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc,) 4 sene s\u00fcrecek olan sat\u0131\u015f pazarlama alan\u0131nda bankada g\u00f6rev ald\u0131m. Bana y\u00f6neltilen ifadelerden baz\u0131lar\u0131 \u015funlard\u0131 mesela;<\/p>\n

“Sen bu \u015fubenin vitrinisin.”<\/em><\/p>\n

“Topuklu ayakkab\u0131 giy \u00f6zlem!”<\/em><\/p>\n

“Makyaj yap \u00d6zlem!”<\/em><\/p>\n

Ama sonra odalar\u0131nda \u015funa kat\u0131lmam\u0131 beklediler: \u201cHerkesin ki\u015fili\u011fine ve \u00f6zel hayat\u0131na sayg\u0131 duyuyoruz…\u201d<\/em> Peki ben buna inanacak kadar aptal m\u0131yd\u0131m? Hay\u0131r! \u0130stifa ettim! \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu iki y\u00fczl\u00fcl\u00fc\u011fe katlanam\u0131yordum. Bu i\u015f ve bu insanlar gen\u00e7li\u011fimi benden \u00e7al\u0131yorlard\u0131; arkada\u015flar\u0131m gibi, sevgililerim gibi! Hepsini \u00e7\u0131kard\u0131m hayat\u0131mdan; y\u00fcklerimden ar\u0131nd\u0131m!<\/p>\n

Daha \u00e7ok kitap okudum ve t\u00fcm kahraman kad\u0131n filmlerini izledim. Kendi eksik y\u00f6nlerimi fark ettim ve g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc y\u00f6nlerime odakland\u0131m. Radikal bir kararla, yetenekli oldu\u011fum sekt\u00f6re giri\u015f yapt\u0131m: Dijital Pazarlama. 2 sene i\u00e7erisinde 3 istifa ve 2 i\u015ften \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131lma ya\u015fad\u0131m. Ailem tabii ki bu zor s\u00fcre\u00e7te yan\u0131mdayd\u0131 ama ben tek ba\u015f\u0131mayd\u0131m!<\/p>\n

Sonra i\u015fsizken evlenme karar\u0131 ald\u0131m. Yeni roller eklendi \u00fczerime (di\u011ferleri yetmezmi\u015f gibi…) Sadece \u00d6zlem olarak hayat\u0131ma devam etmek isterken, daha uyumlu olmak zorunda kalm\u0131\u015f\u0131m, yan\u0131lm\u0131\u015f\u0131m! Ben sald\u0131rgan bir pislikten ibarettim asl\u0131nda, o d\u00f6nemde hayat\u0131ma giren herkes beni yanl\u0131\u015f tan\u0131m\u0131\u015f mesela!<\/p>\n

Aradan 2 sene ge\u00e7ti, tek ba\u015f\u0131ma yine bir \u015feylerin m\u00fccadelesi i\u00e7erisindeyim. Ablamla i\u015f kurdum, istedi\u011fim ve hayal etti\u011fim hayat\u0131 ya\u015farken bunu g\u00f6lgelemeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan insanlar\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcyorum. Alan\u0131ma girerek, can\u0131m\u0131 yakmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan \u201chayalet\u201d insanlar\u0131!<\/p>\n

Bazen t\u00fcm teknolojik cihazlar\u0131, markalar\u0131n reklam hesaplar\u0131n\u0131, yazmam gereken makaleleri ve sekt\u00f6r\u00fc g\u00fc\u00e7lendirmek ad\u0131na her hafta 8 saat videoya ay\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m zaman\u0131 geride b\u0131rak\u0131p uzakla\u015fmak istiyorum!<\/p>\n

Bu ya\u015fam ve ba\u015farma sava\u015f\u0131n\u0131n \u00fczerine; 2020 Ocak ay\u0131 Kad\u0131n Cinayetleri raporunu merak ediyorum. Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m bu psikolojik \u015fiddeti ve bu vah\u015fice can\u0131 al\u0131nan kad\u0131nlar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum. Bunca ikiy\u00fczl\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn ortas\u0131nda kalm\u0131\u015fken tokat gibi gelen bu haberlerle diyorum ki:<\/p>\n

“Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n tek ba\u015f\u0131na da bir \u015feyler ba\u015farabilece\u011fini anlatacaks\u0131n. Biz \u00f6lmek i\u00e7in do\u011fmad\u0131k!”<\/p>\n

Amac\u0131n\u0131n sadece do\u011furmak, \u00fcremek, ‘instamom’<\/em> olmak, gezmek, al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f yapmak, p\u0131rlantaya kendini satmaktan ibaret olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6stereceksin! Ve bizim gibi kad\u0131nlar\u0131n amac\u0131 hi\u00e7bir zaman da bu olmayacak!<\/p>\n

Biz m\u00fccadeleci kad\u0131nlarsak e\u011fer, bu Sevgililer G\u00fcn\u00fc\u2019nde belki de sadece kendimize sar\u0131lmal\u0131y\u0131z en ba\u015fta! Sonra e\u015fimiz, sevgilimiz ya da her neyse!<\/p>\n

G\u00f6zlerime bak!<\/p>\n

Birlikte ba\u015faraca\u011f\u0131z!<\/p>\n

\u2666<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Bizim toplumumuzda \u201ckad\u0131nlar\u201d her ne kadar ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olsa da, \u015f\u00f6yle bir yarg\u0131 vard\u0131r: \u201cArkas\u0131nda vard\u0131r birileri…\u201d San\u0131rlar ki, hi\u00e7bir kad\u0131n kendi kendine bir erke\u011fin ba\u015fard\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 ba\u015faramaz. Bug\u00fcn size toplumun iki y\u00fczl\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnden bahsedece\u011fim. Kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m kadar\u0131yla, g\u00f6sterdikleri kadar\u0131yla! Lise ve \u00fcniversitede kendi \u00e7abalar\u0131mla Photoshop \u00f6\u011frenmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131m ve \u00f6\u011frendim de! \u00dcniversitede topluluklar\u0131n afi\u015flerini tasarlad\u0131m. Okul bitti, Gezi\u2019den tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":8164,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[11,41],"tags":[260,431,462,499,605,677,753],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8163"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8163"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8163\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/8164"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8163"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8163"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8163"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}