{"id":7683,"date":"2019-04-10T22:09:51","date_gmt":"2019-04-10T19:09:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.dijitaltopuklar.com\/?p=7683"},"modified":"2019-04-10T22:09:51","modified_gmt":"2019-04-10T19:09:51","slug":"mukemmellik-tuzagi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/2019\/04\/mukemmellik-tuzagi\/","title":{"rendered":"M\u00fckemmellik Tuza\u011f\u0131"},"content":{"rendered":"

Bir s\u00fcredir yazmaya niyetlendi\u011fim yaz\u0131y\u0131 her seferinde \u201cbu konu olmaz, bu hi\u00e7 olmaz, herkes bunu biliyor zaten\u201d<\/em> diyerek erteledim ve kendi kendimi eledim. Ta ki Dijital Topuklar takip\u00e7ilerinin ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz g\u00fcnlerde d\u00fczenlenen ilk fiziki bulu\u015fmas\u0131na misafir olana dek.<\/p>\n

Birbiriyle deneyim al\u0131\u015fveri\u015fine gelmi\u015f bir avu\u00e7 kad\u0131n tan\u0131\u015f\u0131p konu\u015fuyordu. Aralar\u0131ndan hayat hikayesi pek \u00e7ok ki\u015fiye ilham olabilecek, g\u00fczel, ak\u0131ll\u0131 birisinin; i\u00e7ine s\u0131k\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f ufak sesiyle anlatt\u0131klar\u0131 hepimizi duyguland\u0131r\u0131yor ve ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 zorluklar\u0131 dingin kabulleni\u015fi bizi kendisine hayran b\u0131rak\u0131yordu. Onun \u00e7ekingen konu\u015fmalar\u0131nda kendi kendine koydu\u011fu s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 dinlerken, yazmay\u0131 daha fazla ertelememeye karar verdim. Birbirine tek kelime dahi etmemi\u015f yabanc\u0131 iki kad\u0131n olarak havaya as\u0131lan s\u00f6zc\u00fcklerde bulu\u015fan ortak hallerimiz, bazen garipsedi\u011fimiz i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyam\u0131zda yaln\u0131z olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n ispat\u0131yd\u0131 ve ne kadar da rahatlat\u0131c\u0131yd\u0131.<\/strong> \u0130kimizi de yapmak istedi\u011fimiz \u015feylerden geri tutan her ne ise, belki yazd\u0131k\u00e7a \u00e7\u00f6zerdik.<\/p>\n

Ad\u0131m Pelin Onat. Yirmiyi a\u015fk\u0131n y\u0131l\u0131m\u0131 reklamc\u0131l\u0131k sekt\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcn bula\u015f\u0131c\u0131 hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131 m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ilik sendromundan muzdarip biri olarak ge\u00e7irdim. Son yedi y\u0131ld\u0131r ajanslarda \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak yerine, kendi i\u015fimi yap\u0131yor ve markalara ileti\u015fim dan\u0131\u015fmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 veriyorum. Bu d\u00fczen de\u011fi\u015fikli\u011fi elbette ki g\u00fcle oynaya olmad\u0131.<\/p>\n

Hayat\u0131m\u0131n uzun bir d\u00f6nemi heplik hi\u00e7lik tuzaklar\u0131 i\u00e7inde ge\u00e7ti; bir di\u011fer deyi\u015fle \u201cYa en iyisi olsun ya hi\u00e7 olmas\u0131n\u201d diyerek… S\u0131radanl\u0131k, rutin gibi kelimeleri duyunca \u00fcrperiyordum. Ben yaparsam en iyisini yapmal\u0131yd\u0131m, daha \u00f6nce hi\u00e7 duyulmam\u0131\u015f fikirlerim olmal\u0131yd\u0131, en s\u0131ra d\u0131\u015f\u0131 rotalara seyahat etmeliydim, en etkileyici sunumu haz\u0131rlamal\u0131, en yeni trendleri takip etmeli, hi\u00e7bir hataya izin vermemeli, mutlaka kar\u015f\u0131mdakini \u015fa\u015f\u0131rtmal\u0131yd\u0131m, o \u00f6d\u00fcl bizim olmal\u0131yd\u0131… Reklamc\u0131l\u0131k insanda b\u00fcy\u00fck oynama, b\u00fcy\u00fck kazanma h\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131 besliyor; ve bu h\u0131rs hayat\u0131n tamam\u0131na fark ettirmeden s\u0131z\u0131veriyor.<\/strong> Yorulmu\u015ftum.<\/p>\n

Sonra y\u0131llar i\u00e7inde far kettim ki (bu fark edi\u015flerin vesileleri ayr\u0131 birer yaz\u0131 konusu) bunlar\u0131n hepsi ger\u00e7ekte kendimizi ba\u015fkalar\u0131na be\u011fendirmeyle, de\u011fer g\u00f6rmekle, \u00f6vg\u00fcy\u00fc toplamakla ilgili \u2013 kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zda ileti\u015fim kurdu\u011fumuz ki\u015finin ger\u00e7ek ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131lamakla ilgili de\u011fil. Halbuki yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 s\u00f6yledi\u011fimiz i\u015f ileti\u015fimin ta kendisiydi.<\/p>\n

Hem kendi birikimimi kullanabilece\u011fim, hem de butik \u00f6l\u00e7ekte, markalarla samimi ili\u015fkiler kuraca\u011f\u0131m ticari bir yap\u0131 olamaz m\u0131yd\u0131? Hayat\u0131m, beklentilerim, be\u011fenilerim sadele\u015firken i\u015f hayat\u0131m\u0131n da ayn\u0131 rotada de\u011fi\u015fmesi m\u00fcmk\u00fcn m\u00fcyd\u00fc<\/strong>? E\u011fer denemeye cesaret etmeseydim hi\u00e7bir zaman m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funu bilemeyecektim.<\/p>\n

\u015e\u00f6yle bir durup geriye bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131mda, eksik ta\u015flar t\u0131k\u0131r t\u0131k\u0131r yerine oturdu. G\u00f6rd\u00fcm ki b\u00fcy\u00fck projeler, b\u00fcy\u00fck kazan\u00e7lar i\u00e7inde birbirimizle yar\u0131\u015f\u0131rken kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakinin ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131 en basit \u015fekilde \u00e7\u00f6zmeyi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemi\u015fiz. Hep en karma\u015f\u0131k g\u00f6r\u00fcneni yapmaya g\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fcym\u00fc\u015f\u00fcz de, kolay g\u00f6r\u00fcnen i\u015fe burun k\u0131v\u0131rm\u0131\u015f\u0131z. Egomuzu \u00f6ylesi ok\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in\u2026<\/p>\n

Karma\u015f\u0131k olan\u0131 bir anda yapmak zor oldu\u011fundan, hep ideal zaman\u0131 bekleyip \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc ertelemi\u015fiz. Erteledik\u00e7e problemi b\u00fcy\u00fctm\u00fc\u015f\u00fcz, b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fck\u00e7e problemden iyice ka\u00e7m\u0131\u015f\u0131z. Bu sarmal b\u00f6yle devam etmi\u015f. Halbuki ka\u00e7makla hi\u00e7bir problemden kurtulam\u0131yoruz. B\u00fct\u00fcn kavgam\u0131z\u0131 ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla vermek \u00fczere silah ku\u015fan\u0131rken, en b\u00fcy\u00fck d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131m\u0131z olan kendi egomuzu g\u00f6rmezden geliyoruz. O kendini, yapt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131, bildiklerini \u00e7ok \u00f6nemseyen halimiz, asl\u0131nda huzuru bizden uzakla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131yor ve bizi at\u0131lla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131yor.<\/p>\n

\u0130\u015fte Dijital Topuklar bulu\u015fmas\u0131nda o yazmas\u0131n\u0131 ve deneyimlerini payla\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ok diledi\u011fim gen\u00e7 kad\u0131nla bizi bulu\u015fturan tam da buydu: Kendi kendimize kurdu\u011fumuz m\u00fckemmellik tuzaklar\u0131.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Peki akl\u0131 selim biri bu k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc kendine neden yapar? Kendini ac\u0131mas\u0131zca d\u0131\u015f d\u00fcnyayla k\u0131yasa soktu\u011fu i\u00e7in. \u0130nsan\u0131 yetersiz hissettiren konu, k\u0131yas\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015f yerle yapmas\u0131. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla k\u0131yasa girdi\u011fimizde sahte inan\u00e7lar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 besleyecek \u00f6rnekleri mutlaka bulur, hep kaybederiz. Bizden daha ak\u0131ll\u0131s\u0131, daha cesuru, daha g\u00fczeli, daha zengini mutlaka vard\u0131r ve kendimizi hi\u00e7bir zaman yeteri kadar iyi hissedemeyiz.<\/p>\n

Nihayetinde neye inan\u0131yorsak o oluruz. \u0130nand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u015fey ger\u00e7ek olsa da olmasa da, hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 belirler.<\/p>\n

E\u011fer fikirlerimizin dinlenmeye de\u011fer olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcp yeterince m\u00fckemmel bulmazsak, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n onlar\u0131 be\u011fenme se\u00e7ene\u011fini kendi kendimize eleriz.<\/p>\n

Oysa ger\u00e7ek k\u0131yas d\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczle bug\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz aras\u0131nda kendimizle yapaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z k\u0131yast\u0131r ve ger\u00e7ek ba\u015far\u0131 d\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcze g\u00f6re bug\u00fcn daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc ve mutlu olabilmektir.<\/p>\n

D\u00fcn sorun ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z o ili\u015fkide ilk uzla\u015fma ad\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 atarak, bir kavgada ilk g\u00fcl\u00fcmseyen olarak, anlatmak isterken dinlemeye ba\u015flayarak, bir kitab\u0131n ilk c\u00fcmlesini yazarak nihayetinde hedefimize varabiliriz. Ad\u0131m ad\u0131m\u2026<\/p>\n

En az ba\u015fkalar\u0131na oldu\u011fu kadar kendimize de merhamet etmemiz gerek.<\/strong> Herkes kendi inand\u0131\u011f\u0131 yolda y\u00fcr\u00fcrse mutlu, i\u015f hayat\u0131 nerede \u015fekillenmi\u015f olursa olsun d\u00fcn\u00fcne g\u00f6re hedefine bir ad\u0131m yakla\u015fm\u0131\u015fsa herkes ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131. \u0130lla ad\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 alt\u0131n harflerle yazd\u0131racak bir bulu\u015fa imza atmam\u0131z gerekmiyor. K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ad\u0131mlarla d\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcze g\u00f6re bug\u00fcn bir arpa boyu yol daha ilerlemek… T\u00fcm oda\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 buna \u00e7evirdi\u011fimizde, d\u00fcnyam\u0131z da de\u011fi\u015fiyor.<\/p>\n

\u00d6\u011frendim ki as\u0131l ba\u015far\u0131 basite yeterince \u00f6nem verebilmekte. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ne ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta at\u0131lacak o ilk ad\u0131m olmadan yolculu\u011fu tamamlamak m\u00fcmk\u00fcn, ne de yaz\u0131lacak o tek c\u00fcmle olmadan bir kitab\u0131 bitirmek. Yapaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z hi\u00e7bir \u015feyin m\u00fckemmel olmas\u0131na da gerek yok, sadece bizi yans\u0131ts\u0131n yeter. Sevdi\u011fim bir arkada\u015f\u0131m\u0131n at\u00f6lyesinde duyup kalbime yerle\u015ftirdi\u011fim s\u00f6z \u015f\u00f6yle diyor: \u201cSadece en g\u00fczel sesi olan ku\u015f \u00f6tseydi, orman \u00e7ok sessiz bir yer olurdu.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

Basit olan\u0131n k\u0131ymetini deneyimledi\u011fimizde, g\u00f6rece\u011fiz ki hayat\u0131n her alan\u0131nda hedefimiz do\u011frultusunda d\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcze g\u00f6re bug\u00fcn ataca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ad\u0131mlar bizi mucizelere ta\u015f\u0131yacak.<\/p>\n

Hayat\u0131n s\u0131radanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7indeyken, her g\u00fcn oturdu\u011fumuz ofisteki masam\u0131zda mutlu kalabilmeye ba\u015flayaca\u011f\u0131z. Kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakine nas\u0131l fayda sa\u011flar\u0131m diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnecek, yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z i\u015fe (mecbur olmamam\u0131za ra\u011fmen) k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir art\u0131 de\u011fer ne katabiliriz diye ara\u015ft\u0131raca\u011f\u0131z. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc sadece kendi d\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcze g\u00f6re daha iyi olmak i\u00e7in yar\u0131\u015faca\u011f\u0131z ve bunu ad\u0131mlar\u0131m\u0131zda \u0131srarc\u0131 olarak yapaca\u011f\u0131z.<\/p>\n

Tam da bu y\u00fczden; M\u00fckemmellik tuza\u011f\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcn\u00fcn k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ad\u0131mlar\u0131n sihrinde oldu\u011funa inan\u0131yorum. Bir hedefe y\u00f6neldi\u011fimizde ataca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z ilk ve son k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ad\u0131m\u0131n sihrinde.<\/p>\n

S\u0131radanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n i\u00e7indeki k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck mucizelerde.<\/p>\n

Japon esteti\u011finde m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ilik kar\u015f\u0131t\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f olarak \u00f6zetlenen Wabi Sabi anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n dinginli\u011fi hepimize iyi gelecek. Bu da bir sonraki yaz\u0131n\u0131n konusu olsun.<\/p>\n

Hepimizin kendi hayat\u0131 i\u00e7in bug\u00fcn yapabilece\u011fi bir \u015feyler var.<\/p>\n

\u015eu an kendimize sorsak: D\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcze g\u00f6re yar\u0131n bizi daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc k\u0131lacak o k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ad\u0131m ne? Bu ad\u0131m\u0131 atmaya cesaret edecek miyiz?<\/p>\n

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Bir s\u00fcredir yazmaya niyetlendi\u011fim yaz\u0131y\u0131 her seferinde \u201cbu konu olmaz, bu hi\u00e7 olmaz, herkes bunu biliyor zaten\u201d diyerek erteledim ve kendi kendimi eledim. Ta ki Dijital Topuklar takip\u00e7ilerinin ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz g\u00fcnlerde d\u00fczenlenen ilk fiziki bulu\u015fmas\u0131na misafir olana dek. Birbiriyle deneyim al\u0131\u015fveri\u015fine gelmi\u015f bir avu\u00e7 kad\u0131n tan\u0131\u015f\u0131p konu\u015fuyordu. Aralar\u0131ndan hayat hikayesi pek \u00e7ok ki\u015fiye ilham olabilecek, g\u00fczel, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":43,"featured_media":7685,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[9,11,32],"tags":[260,499,559,560,620],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7683"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/43"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7683"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7683\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/7685"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7683"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7683"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7683"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}