{"id":7518,"date":"2019-02-13T00:44:14","date_gmt":"2019-02-12T21:44:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.dijitaltopuklar.com\/?p=7518"},"modified":"2019-02-13T00:44:14","modified_gmt":"2019-02-12T21:44:14","slug":"beni-kategorize-etme-benle-oynama","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/2019\/02\/beni-kategorize-etme-benle-oynama\/","title":{"rendered":"\u2018Beni kategorize etme, benle oynama\u2019"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Nil Karaibrahimgil\u2019in H\u00fcrriyet\u2019teki 07 Ocak tarihli <strong>\u2018Kad\u0131n\u0131n s\u00f6z\u00fc ka\u00e7 gram, erke\u011finki ka\u00e7?\u2019<\/strong> yaz\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 okumu\u015fsunuzdur belki:<em>\u00a0\u2018Bazen evde \u201canne\u201d diye a\u011flayan \u00e7ocu\u011fumuzu kamerada g\u00f6rmemi\u015f gibi davran\u0131r toplant\u0131ya gireriz.\u00a0Sonra da, ancak o uyuyunca eve var\u0131r, r\u00fcyas\u0131ndan \u00f6periz\u2019<\/em> diye ba\u015flayan yaz\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6zellikle \u015fu paragraf\u0131 var ki Instagram\u2019da onlarca sosyal medya hesab\u0131nda al\u0131nt\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fcm:<\/p>\n<p><em>\u2018Halbuki kad\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n yumu\u015fakl\u0131\u011f\u0131nda b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00fc\u00e7ler gizli. Bizim g\u00fcr sesimizde masallar var. Eteklerimizde hayat\u0131 d\u00f6nd\u00fcr\u00fcyoruz. Ellerimiz, g\u00f6\u011fs\u00fcm\u00fcz bir insan\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fctebilir. Uyutabilir. Bunlar\u0131 kaybetmeden, bunlarla beraber gelsek i\u015fe. Bu pamukluk i\u00e7inde. \u015eu me\u015fhur pamuk mu a\u011f\u0131r, demir mi problemi olmasa. Ba\u011f\u0131rmadan da dinlense sesimiz, pantolonsuz da ko\u015fabildi\u011fimiz g\u00f6r\u00fclse. Erkekle\u015fmeden ba\u015farsak \u015fu i\u015fi. \u00dc\u00e7 be\u015f top var d\u00f6nd\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz ellerimizde, bir de cambaz ipine \u00e7\u0131kmaya zorlamasa bizi.\u2019<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Mevzunun can\u0131m\u0131 a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 s\u0131kan k\u0131sm\u0131na gelmeden \u00f6nce hemen belirtmek isterim ki Nil Karaibrahimgil kad\u0131nlar\u0131n kendi seslerini bulmalar\u0131 ve \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fcklerine sahip \u00e7\u0131kmalar\u0131 konusunda \u00e7ok faydal\u0131 i\u015fler yapm\u0131\u015f,<strong> \u2018Tek ta\u015f\u0131m\u0131 kendim ald\u0131m\u2019<\/strong> gibi adeta slogan olmu\u015f bir c\u00fcmleyi yazm\u0131\u015f kad\u0131nd\u0131r, her konuda kad\u0131nlardan yana oldu\u011fundan bir an bile \u015f\u00fcphe etmem. Tedirgin oldu\u011fum ve can s\u0131kan k\u0131sm\u0131 ise bazen art\u0131k neredeyse kli\u015fele\u015fmi\u015f baz\u0131 c\u00fcmlelerin bu kadar \u00e7ok tekrarlan\u0131p durmas\u0131n\u0131n kad\u0131nlara iyilikten ziyade zarar veriyor gibi gelmesi,<strong> bunlar\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131nda da \u2018kad\u0131n yumu\u015fakl\u0131\u011f\u0131\u2019 vurgusu var.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Neden kad\u0131nlara s\u00fcrekli yumu\u015fak olmak yak\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131l\u0131yor ve b\u00f6yle davranmayan bir kad\u0131n <em>\u2018erkekle\u015fmek\u2019<\/em> ile itham ediliyor mesela? Ana\u00e7 olmayan kad\u0131n olamaz m\u0131 yery\u00fcz\u00fcnde ya da tam tersi do\u011furmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 halde \u00e7ok ana\u00e7 olan erkekler olamaz m\u0131? Olabilir, var. Evde anne diye a\u011flayan \u00e7ocu\u011funu b\u0131rak\u0131p i\u015fe gelmek zorunda olan sadece kad\u0131n m\u0131 mesela? Ya da biz bunu hep kad\u0131na y\u00fckledik\u00e7e o \u00e7ocu\u011fun bak\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n da asl\u0131nda temelde kad\u0131n meselesi oldu\u011funu kabullenmi\u015f olmuyor muyuz? Neden kabullenelim?<em> \u2018Ellerimiz, memelerimiz bir insan b\u00fcy\u00fctebilir\u2019<\/em> elbette ama bir insan b\u00fcy\u00fctmeden de kad\u0131n olunur ya da kad\u0131n olmayanlar da insan b\u00fcy\u00fctebilir, illa memelerinden s\u00fct \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131 gerekmez. Bunu her zaman kendi kendilerine ak\u0131l edemedikleri i\u00e7in (yazar burada erkeklerden bahsetmektedir tabii) durumun duygusalla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131l\u0131p bu kadar kabullenilmesi yerine onlara s\u0131k s\u0131k hat\u0131rlat\u0131lmas\u0131nda fayda var gibi geliyor bana. Sonucu bir anda tamamen de\u011fi\u015ftirmeyecektir ama denemeyi b\u0131rakmak da hi\u00e7 olmaz.<\/p>\n<p>Bir konu\u015fma dinlemi\u015ftim seneler \u00f6nce, b\u00fcy\u00fck bir \u015firketin y\u00fcksek bir yetkilisi, san\u0131r\u0131m genel m\u00fcd\u00fcrd\u00fc, <em>\u2018Biz \u015firkette kad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n erkek gibi de\u011fil, kad\u0131n gibi olmas\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ok destekleriz\u2019<\/em> demi\u015fti t\u00fcm iyi niyetiyle, bu c\u00fcmlenin kad\u0131nlar\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7lendirece\u011finden \u00e7ok emin. O zaman da bu yaz\u0131y\u0131 okudu\u011fumdaki ile benzer bir tedirginlik ya\u015fam\u0131\u015ft\u0131m zira bazen b\u00fct\u00fcn mesele erkeklerin kafas\u0131ndaki o <strong>\u2018kad\u0131n gibi\u2019<\/strong> tan\u0131m\u0131 y\u00fcz\u00fcnden ya\u015fan\u0131yor. Kad\u0131n gibi olmaya destek vermekle <em>\u2018Bu bir bayana yak\u0131\u015f\u0131yor mu?\u2019<\/em> c\u00fcmlesini kurman\u0131n aras\u0131ndaki \u00e7izgi bazen d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fczden daha ince.<\/p>\n<p>Kad\u0131nlar\u0131 tan\u0131mlamay\u0131 b\u0131raksak, bir tak\u0131m kal\u0131plar i\u00e7ine s\u0131\u011fd\u0131rmaktan vazge\u00e7sek, <strong>\u2018ana\u00e7, yumu\u015fak, zarif, kibar\u2019<\/strong> gibi olumlu dahi olsa s\u0131fatlar takmay\u0131 b\u0131raksak nas\u0131l olur acaba? Genelleyerek verilen her s\u0131fat, \u00f6yle olmayana y\u00fck \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>E\u015fit g\u00fcnler dilerim.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>\u2666<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Nil Karaibrahimgil\u2019in H\u00fcrriyet\u2019teki 07 Ocak tarihli \u2018Kad\u0131n\u0131n s\u00f6z\u00fc ka\u00e7 gram, erke\u011finki ka\u00e7?\u2019 yaz\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 okumu\u015fsunuzdur belki:\u00a0\u2018Bazen evde \u201canne\u201d diye a\u011flayan \u00e7ocu\u011fumuzu kamerada g\u00f6rmemi\u015f gibi davran\u0131r toplant\u0131ya gireriz.\u00a0Sonra da, ancak o uyuyunca eve var\u0131r, r\u00fcyas\u0131ndan \u00f6periz\u2019 diye ba\u015flayan yaz\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6zellikle \u015fu paragraf\u0131 var ki Instagram\u2019da onlarca sosyal medya hesab\u0131nda al\u0131nt\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fcm: \u2018Halbuki kad\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n yumu\u015fakl\u0131\u011f\u0131nda b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00fc\u00e7ler gizli. 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