{"id":6970,"date":"2018-09-05T15:37:58","date_gmt":"2018-09-05T12:37:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.dijitaltopuklar.com\/?p=6970"},"modified":"2018-09-05T15:37:58","modified_gmt":"2018-09-05T12:37:58","slug":"her-seyi-yapabilirim-ama-yapmayacagim","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/2018\/09\/her-seyi-yapabilirim-ama-yapmayacagim\/","title":{"rendered":"Her \u015feyi yapabilirim ama yapmayaca\u011f\u0131m"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Zaman zaman sosyal medyada kad\u0131nlar\u0131n ne kadar g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc oldu\u011funa dair kampanyalar yap\u0131l\u0131yor. Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n nas\u0131l da her \u015feye muktedir oldu\u011funa, ellerinden bir u\u00e7anla bir ka\u00e7an\u0131n kurtulaca\u011f\u0131na, d\u00fcnyay\u0131 yerinden oynatabilecek g\u00fc\u00e7te olduklar\u0131na dair bol bol payla\u015f\u0131m yap\u0131l\u0131yor. Elbette bu kampanyalar\u0131n amac\u0131 kad\u0131n\u0131n i\u015f hayat\u0131nda olmas\u0131n\u0131n, \u00fcretmeyi hi\u00e7 b\u0131rakmamas\u0131n\u0131n, evine kapanmamas\u0131n\u0131n ve Mehmet Aslantu\u011f\u2019un \u015fahane \u00f6zetledi\u011fi gibi,\u00a0<em>\u2018b\u00fct\u00fcn istikbalini bir erke\u011fin vicdan\u0131na b\u0131rakmamas\u0131n\u0131n&#8217;<\/em> \u00f6nemini vurgulamak, bu y\u00fczden her kampanya, her uyar\u0131 \u00e7ok k\u0131ymetli. Yine de kendimi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmekten alamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m bir konu var: <strong>Acaba kad\u0131nlar\u0131n her \u015feyi tek ba\u015f\u0131na yapabilece\u011fine kendimizi a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 kapt\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7in erkekler hi\u00e7bir \u015fey yapmamaya do\u011fru mu ko\u015fuyor?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Kad\u0131n dedi\u011fin o kadar g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcd\u00fcr ki; b\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00fcn ofiste \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r, ak\u015fam gelir yemek yapar, \u00fczerine \u00e7ocuklarla oynar, ertesi g\u00fcn\u00fc organize eder, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n \u00f6devine bakar, \u00f6\u011fretmenle g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fclecekse g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr, evi temizler, ortal\u0131\u011f\u0131 toparlar, aranmas\u0131 gereken arkada\u015f ve aile fertlerini arar ve ertesi g\u00fcn (\u015fans\u0131 varsa gece \u00e7ocuk y\u00fcz\u00fcnden on kere kalkmadan) en bak\u0131ml\u0131 haliyle i\u015fe gider. Kad\u0131n dedi\u011fin o kadar organizedir ki, i\u015f seyahatine gitse bile evin d\u00fczenini aksatmaz, ahtapot gibidir her yere yeti\u015fir, yorulmaz, y\u0131k\u0131lmaz, surat\u0131 as\u0131lmaz, sa\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n teli bozulmaz. Ger\u00e7ekten \u00f6yle midir peki? \u00d6yle olmal\u0131 m\u0131d\u0131r?<\/p>\n<p>Neden ayn\u0131 saatte eve gelen bir kar\u0131 kocadan bir tanesi b\u00fct\u00fcn bu i\u015fleri yapmak zorundad\u0131r mesela? <strong>Ya da b\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00fcn evde \u00e7ocu\u011fu ile ilgilenen bir kad\u0131n\u0131n bundan bunald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 itiraf etmeye hakk\u0131 yok mudur?<\/strong> Kad\u0131nlar yard\u0131m isteyemez mi? Aile fertlerinden, i\u015fin profesyonellerinden ya da en \u00f6nemlisi hayat\u0131 payla\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131 erkekten bu i\u015flerin bir k\u0131sm\u0131n\u0131 almas\u0131n\u0131 bekleyemez mi? Bu i\u015flerin tamam\u0131n\u0131n evdeki kad\u0131na zimmetli oldu\u011fu nerede yazar? Neden ev temizli\u011fi ya da \u00e7ocuk bakmak i\u00e7in birine para \u00f6deniyorsa bu sadece anneye yard\u0131m olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcr, baba o esnada ba\u015fka evde mi ya\u015famaktad\u0131r? Destek sistemleri bir kad\u0131n\u0131n anneli\u011fini mi azalt\u0131r, onu daha ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z bir kad\u0131n m\u0131 yapar? <strong>Acaba biz s\u00fcrekli ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 ve enerjisi hi\u00e7 d\u00fc\u015fmeyen kad\u0131n \u00f6rneklerini etrafa doldurunca ger\u00e7ek hayatta moralini bozdu\u011fumuz kad\u0131nlar olur mu?<\/strong> Bir kad\u0131na \u00e7ok iyi gelir belki bu ama ba\u015fka bir yerde kendisinde neyin eksik oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnen bir kad\u0131n m\u0131 b\u0131rak\u0131r\u0131z?<\/p>\n<p>Be\u015f alt\u0131 y\u0131l \u00f6nce \u00c7ek Cumhuriyeti\u2019nden (\u00c7ekya de\u011fildi o zaman) gelen bir kad\u0131nla tan\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Yak\u0131n zamanda bir torunu oldu\u011funu ve gelininin daha y\u00fcksek maa\u015fl\u0131 bir i\u015fi oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in bebe\u011fe o\u011flunun bakaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131, bir y\u0131ll\u0131k babal\u0131k izni ald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlatm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Laf sokmadan, ima yapmadan, \u2018Bizim gelin de biraz entel\u2019 demeden, o\u011fluna k\u0131l\u0131b\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131 yak\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmadan, olanca do\u011fall\u0131\u011f\u0131yla, d\u00fcnyan\u0131n en s\u0131radan sohbeti gibi anlatm\u0131\u015ft\u0131 bunu. Kendisi de o s\u0131rada bir \u015firkette direkt\u00f6rd\u00fc, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan kad\u0131n olmay\u0131 da biliyordu, anne olmay\u0131 da, babaanne olmay\u0131 da. \u2018\u00c7al\u0131\u015fan anne olmak\u2019 diye bir mefhum yoktu ama kafas\u0131nda zira anneye ekstra y\u00fckler y\u00fckleyen bir k\u00fclt\u00fcrden gelmiyordu, kimse \u00e7ocu\u011fun sadece annenin oldu\u011funu veya ev temizlemenin kad\u0131nlara atanm\u0131\u015f bir g\u00f6rev oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fcyor, mutfa\u011fa bir tabak g\u00f6t\u00fcrd\u00fc diye evdeki erke\u011fi alk\u0131\u015flam\u0131yordu. Ne kadar \u00f6zenmi\u015ftim ona, g\u00f6zlerim dolmu\u015ftu dinlerken.<\/p>\n<p>Demem o ki dinlemeyelim etraf\u0131, k\u0131\u015fk\u0131rtmayal\u0131m kendimizi. <strong>Her zaman a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc ve her \u015feye yeti\u015fen s\u00fcper kahramanlar olmak zorunda de\u011filiz, sakin olal\u0131m ve i\u00e7imizden geleni yapal\u0131m.<\/strong> Yetemiyorsak yard\u0131m isteyelim, konu\u015fal\u0131m, anlatal\u0131m. Dilerim hepimiz e\u015fit, \u00f6zg\u00fcr ve mutlu olal\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>\u2666<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Zaman zaman sosyal medyada kad\u0131nlar\u0131n ne kadar g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc oldu\u011funa dair kampanyalar yap\u0131l\u0131yor. Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n nas\u0131l da her \u015feye muktedir oldu\u011funa, ellerinden bir u\u00e7anla bir ka\u00e7an\u0131n kurtulaca\u011f\u0131na, d\u00fcnyay\u0131 yerinden oynatabilecek g\u00fc\u00e7te olduklar\u0131na dair bol bol payla\u015f\u0131m yap\u0131l\u0131yor. Elbette bu kampanyalar\u0131n amac\u0131 kad\u0131n\u0131n i\u015f hayat\u0131nda olmas\u0131n\u0131n, \u00fcretmeyi hi\u00e7 b\u0131rakmamas\u0131n\u0131n, evine kapanmamas\u0131n\u0131n ve Mehmet Aslantu\u011f\u2019un \u015fahane \u00f6zetledi\u011fi gibi,\u00a0\u2018b\u00fct\u00fcn istikbalini [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":6971,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[11,32,39],"tags":[336,369,755],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6970"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/6"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6970"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6970\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6971"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6970"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6970"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/perihanciragoz.com\/dijitaltopuklar\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6970"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}